What Should I Expect at a French Wedding?

What Should I Expect at a French Wedding?

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Universally, a wedding is about three C's-ceremony, commitment, and celebration-but so much of the experience depends on who and where you are as a bride. Take a walk down someone else's aisle for a change-with our Weddings Around the World series that explores marital traditions all across the map. This stop: France.

Fun fact: The words "I do" in the context of a wedding don't directly translate in French. Instead, couples respond to marital prompts with "Je le veux" which means, "I want it." There's something about this connotation of desire versus compliance that feels poetic, romantic, and very French, non?

Photo by Jamie English

Interested in other wedding details that are very French? We were too, so we called upon French wedding planners MylГЁne and Geoffrey of White Eden Weddings for a complete breakdown of what you should expect if you have the pleasure of attending a French wedding anytime in the near future, along with French bride Vanessa Monnet.

Though a few of the more dated traditions are pretty much defunct (thankfully, most brides are no longer forced to drink the mysterious contents of a chamber pot brought to them by their guests for the Pot de Chambre ritual), there are still many lovely displays of France's romantic history that modern couples choose to incorporate into their wedding day.

Read about them below, and don't be surprised if you come across one or two that'll make you say, "Je le veux."


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As the famous saying goes, "two weds are better than one." Kidding, but French couples do typically have two ceremonies - a civil and a symbolic service-over the course of two days. "The civil ceremony is still very important in the French spirit," White Eden Weddings tell us. "Firstly because it's the only ceremony that makes the marriage official." Often times, the civil ceremony is held the day before the rest of the wedding celebration with only close family and witnesses (more on those later) attending. "They keep it very intimate and simple," says WEW. "The 'real' wedding is the day after and has more meaning whether it's at a church or just a more symbolic, secular ceremony." The number of church ceremonies is decreasing as people in France and around the world have fewer religious ties, but MylГЁne and Geoff also think it has something to do with stateside brides! "We think symbolic ceremonies are becoming more and more important as a result of American influence," they say. French wedding festivities also often include a Sunday brunch or lunch. Vanessa and her husband hosted a picnic on the Sunday following her wedding, writing in the invite the French equivalent of, "It is important for us to be surrounded by the people we cherish the most. We would be really happy if we could be together and toast!"

Livret de Famille Booklet

Charline Jay Photographie; Courtesy of Vanessa Monnet

The official document that legalizes your marriage is both "mandatory" and a "strong symbol that literally shows you're now creating your own family," says WEW. "It's used your whole life, and your children's names and identities will be added to it."

Wedding Party

Instead of bridesmaids and groomsmen, French brides and grooms have tГ©moins or "witnesses" that stand next to them during the ceremonies and sign the wedding registry. They can be any age or sex. Monnet chose her three sisters, while her groom chose his brother, sister, and best friend. However, WEW says more and more couples are opting to have bridesmaids and groomsmen in the more Westernized sense these days. As for flower girls and ring bearers, they've always been common findings at French weddings.

Le CortГЁge

This term refers to the act of the groom and his mother escorting each other down the aisle. "French people are usually very shy and don't like to parade," explains WEW. "To be honest, we know more than one mother who would've been very angry if her son had tried to opt out!" The father of the bride accompanies his daughter in the same fashion.

Les Jeunes MariГ©s Exit

When les jeunes mariГ©s, or "the newlyweds" leave the church, they are generally showered with grains of wheat or rice or flower petals, which can be considered symbols of prosperity and fertility.

Reception or. Repas de Noces

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In French, the reception or "wedding meal" is called repas de noces, and as we've hinted throughout-it's a very good time. The number of attendees typically falls in the 200-300 range, and they're here to party; French weddings can go as late as 7:00 the following morning! Recently, French brides have become increasingly concerned with reception decoration, according to WEW. "French couples used to pay more attention to the atmosphere and dining, but now it's becoming a trend to have very elegant styling," they explained. "Everything from long wooden tables with rustic tableware in the middle of a lavender field to refined floral arrangements in a gorgeous chateaux."

Le Vin D'honneur

Charline Jay Photographie; Courtesy of Vanessa Monnet

The cocktail hours (yes, hours. This portion of the wedding usually lasts 2-3 hours instead of the American, British, or Asiatic standards of 1 to 1.5 hours) are the most important time of a typical French wedding day, WEW tells us. "After the ceremony, it's an occasion to gather everyone around for quality food and drinks-mostly wine." At the end, the bride and groom will make their entrance in the "broom car" or la voiture balai. "In our case, we arrived on a scooter which had a little carriage at the back, but many couples will arrive in a horse carriage or vintage car," says Monnet.

Food & Drink

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"The first thing French couples absolutely want to have is French food and French wine," says WEW. "As clichГ© as it seems, French people are proud of their gourmet heritage and don't want to miss any opportunity of expressing it." (For WEW weddings lately, that's meant lots of local wine trucks - especially in the south of France.) Just be careful not to fill up on hors d'oeuvres during Le Vin D'honneur - a hard charge considering you probably won't sit down for dinner before 9 pm. Late-night onion soup was a must-have for generations past, says WEW, "It was supposed to be served at the end of the party, very, very late -like 4 or 5 am-before guests left to go to sleep, but it's slowly disappearing."


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The traditional French wedding dessert is a pyramid of caramel-covered profiteroles, and is still very popular today. Interestingly, WEW also get lots of croquembouche requests from destination wedding couples who choose France as their location. "We had a couple from Singapore who wanted a gigantic croquembouche for their cake cutting," they recalled. "That was before they realized a croquembouche is not a cake you can actually cut!"


Surprise! (Joking.) Of course the champagne is flowing at French weddings. We'd heard mention of a French couple or two taking off the top of a bottle with a saber in a ceremony called "Sabrage," but WEW was dismayed to hear this. "Never!" they told us. "In France, Champagne is not entertainment; it's a beverage you savor!"


Photo by Thomas Papaterpos; courtesy of Vanessa Monnet

"The entertainment has become really important," says WEW. "In the French culture, you literally can't be bored at a wedding." For their part, WEW has brought in aquatic shows, live-cooking demonstrations, and sketch artists. It's also common for close friends and family of the newlyweds to perform some personalized bit for the couple. While Monnet has seen guests become everything from slideshow prompters to magicians to musicians, at their wedding, the groom's best friend strummed guitar and they ended the night with a fireworks show.

Father-Daughter Dance

This worldwide practice is still a thing, WEW tells us. "It's a tradition that the bride and her father open the ball, and then the father gives the bride away to the groom during this first dance, and the bride and groom finish it together." For everyone else, the dancing starts around midnight and as we've said, can go until the wee hours of the morning.

Bouquet Toss

As in America, "only single females are meant to stand in line and try to catch the bride's bouquet that's supposed to bring luck," Monnet says.


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At French weddings, the bride and groom start off the toasts at dinner by greeting their guests and thanking them for being present. Then, the floor is open. Monnet says that generally family members make speeches while the witnesses take care of the above-mentioned entertainment.


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Popular guest favors for French weddings include customized candle, dragГ©es (see below!), or a sample of something local-such as a small bottle of olive oil or dried lavender, says WEW. Monnet says, "In our case it was little lavender bags as a symbol of Provence," but she's also seen little pots of honey, local souvenirs, and cookies. Very few French couples have registries, and most just ask for money. Many weddings, including Monnet's, have an un livre d'or or "guestbook" set up with an adjacent box for donations.

Special Traditions

В©ThomasPapaterpos; Courtesy of Vanessa Monnet

Flowers for the Virgin Mary

Charline Jay Photographie; Courtesy of Vanessa Monnet

During some religious ceremonies in the South of France, a bride and groom will lay flowers at the feet of the statue of Virgin Mary. "It's like an offering to have her protection in return," explains Monnet.


Fiançailles translates to "engagement," and it's a quite a large deal in French culture. "The proposal is usually a big event, in the context of a romantic trip somewhere symbolic," Monnet says. "Ours was in the desert of Atacama in Chile." After the ask, French couples may plan an engagement party for the families, close friends, and future witnesses. "This bringing together of families is an important tradition that most French couples respect," says WEW.

White Ribbon-Cutting

It used to be customary in small French villages for the groom to collect his bride-to-be from her home prior to the ceremony with a sort of a caravan. The procession was led by musicians and the bride with her father, while the groom and his mother followed at the very back. Before entering the chapel, children would stretch out white ribbons to block the bride's path, forcing her to cut them to pass through. The tradition was supposed to symbolize the bride overcoming obstacles married life might send her way. In contemporary times, Monnet speculated that the ritual may have evolved into the cutting of a heart in a white sheet for the bride and groom to go through together, as she and her now-husband did at their reception.

La Coupe de Mariage

The Coupe de Marriage was typically an engraved, two-handled cup passed down as a family heirloom that the newlyweds would use to toast each other for the first time. Nowadays? "Couples usually just toast with regular champagne glasses," says WEW.


A trousseau is a collection of the bride's personal laundry and linens, that was once provided to her and her new husband for her wedding day by her parents. In the United States's adaptation, a trousseau also included bridal accessories, jewelry, lingerie, toiletries, and makeup that were all stored in a wooden hope chest. Since many French and American couples now live together before the wedding, it's no longer as relevant. Brides may have a lingerie shower or bridal shower to receive those types of gifts, or Monnet compares it to our contemporary understanding of a registry. "Nowadays it is called a liste de mariage," she says, though she mentions again they're uncommon, almost always online, and "instead of linens, couples will ask for things like cash contributions to a fantastic honeymoon."


The dragГ©e is a candy-coated (usually in chocolate) almond, and a very popular sweet at French weddings. "This is still alive," says WEW. "At weddings, they are gifted to guests in fives- each dragГ©e symbolizing the health, happiness, longevity, fertility and wealth of the couple."

Honeymoon or. Le Voyage de Noce. or. La Lune de Miel

WEW says most of their couples leave for the honeymoon two to three days after the wedding, and usually choose sunny destinations like Mauritius or the Maldives. "Southeast Asia has also been very popular these past few years," they say.

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The guests' attire at French weddings is "classic," says WEW. "Women wear dresses and men wear suits. Sometimes the bride and groom ask for a specific dress code-either a level of formality, like black tie or white tie, or a specific color or theme." Many times the flower girls and ring bearers will be dressed in "fancy, matching" outfits. Witnesses usually wear what they please, and as you saw above in Monnet's case, women may opt to wear a hat or fascinator. Traditionally, the bride will wear a white or off-white wedding dress, or la robe de mariГ©e with a train and veil.


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